Watching someone you love slowly drift into confusion and physical weakness is one of the most heart-wrenching experiences. My grandfather has both dementia and Parkinson’s, and every day brings a new challenge—for him and for those of us who love him. He was in army, once so strong, so full of life and stories. Now, simple things like remembering my name or walking a few steps seem like mountains he has to climb.
Helping him with daily tasks has become part of my life. I assist him with using the washroom, preparing his meals, feeding him when he struggles to hold a spoon, and gently encouraging him to try and walk a little each day. It’s not easy—his hands tremble, his balance wavers, and sometimes his mind is far away. But I sit with him, hold his hand, and just be there.
One thing that still lights up his face is music. I often play the guitar for him. Sometimes, he hums along. Other times, he just listens with closed eyes, like he’s holding onto a memory that the melody brings back. Those small moments of connection mean everything.
There are days I feel helpless. But I’ve learned that love isn’t always grand gestures—it’s in the quiet moments: helping him button his shirt, or just sitting in silence beside him.
Dementia and Parkinson’s may be slowly stealing parts of him, but I’ll keep showing up, every day, in all the little ways that I can. Because he’s still my grandfather—and he’s given me so much. Now it’s my turn to be there for him.
I am so proud of you Digvijay that you have the empathy at this age
You are an example how a grandson should be.It is surely our turn to be with them and care for them as they have been with us at each and every point of time.
Salute to your devotion and attitude.
God bless
Excellent
Proud of you Digvijay
So well written… Dementia and Parkinson not only gradually steals a person from himself or herself, it also affects the entire family. Seeing the very person who was once filled with life, give a void look or move around aimlessly is indeed heartbreaking. How true it is… Its these small gestures or care, we call love.
Well done boy!! I am sure the family is super proud of you. It’s so rare to see the young generation look after their elders with so much patience and love. Do continue taking care of him and take his blessings.
Proud of you Digvijay,
Proud of you Digvijay.